Wish and If only

Do you ever find yourself wishing English grammar was easy?
If only you had somebody to explain it in a simple way.
Well to answer your questions, English can be easy and today you do have someone to explain it in an easy way.

At Central School of English, Dublin, we care about our students progress and always try to help them with their questions and struggles.

If you are having trouble with ‘wish’ and ‘If only’, you have come to the right place.

In today’s post, we are going to talk about when to use ‘wish’ and ‘if only’, but before we dive straight into it, let’s take an overview of when we use wish.

We use wish for 3 main reasons:

1. To express that we would like things to change or be different from the way they are now.
2. To express our regret for things in the past
3. To express that we are irritated by something and want it to change e.g habits or for the future.

Do you ever just sit there dreaming of being somewhere else?
Right now you are here, that’s good! However, maybe you would like to be somewhere else.

Maybe you would like to be on a beach somewhere sunbathing and drinking cocktails.

We can use wish to say this:

I wish I were on a beach right now drinking cocktails.

Think of some other dreams you might have for the present:

I wish I had a million euro – (you don’t have a million euro)

I wish it were Christmas – (It is not Christmas today)

I wish he/she were my boyfriend/girlfriend – ( You are not in a relationship with them)

In all of these situations you are imagining something that is not a present reality.

It is important to remember that although we are talking about the present we use the past simple with the verb  wish.

The structure is: Subject + wish + object + past simple

We often have regrets in our lives, things we wish we could have done differently in the past.

We can use wish + past perfect to express these regrets.

Think of the following sentence:

I wish I had gone to bed earlier.

In this sentence, we see the person regrets not going to bed early and maybe they are tired now.

Some more examples of regrets might be:

I wish I had studied harder at school. (The person didn’t study hard enough at school)

I wish I had applied for that job in the library. (The person didn’t apply for the job)

I wish I had asked that girl/boy out when they were single. (The person didn’t ask the boy/girl out.)

In all of these situations, the person is talking about something in the past that they wish they could change, and they are using the past perfect.

To form this sentence, we use: Subject + wish + past perfect

Apart from imagining a different present or past, we can also use wish to talk about habits that annoy us in the present.

Imagine somebody has an annoying habit that drives you crazy and you want to tell them that you would rather they didn’t do it. We can use wish and say:

I wish you wouldn’t make so much noise early in the morning. It wakes me up.

Here are some more examples:

I wish you wouldn’t make such a mess.

I wish he/she would take me to a restaurant more often.

I wish we would spend more time together.

In each of these situations, the person is irritated at another person’s habit.

To make this structure, we use: Subject + wish + Object + would/wouldn’t + infinitive

We can also use this structure to refer to the future.

Imagine that your friend isn’t going to the party with you tonight but you want him to go.

I wish you would come to the party tonight. I don’t want to go alone.”

Here the word tonight is referring to the future.

We often use If only in the same way as wish when we want to be emphatic.

We can use it for all three structures:

If only I were on a beach!

“If only I had gone to bed early!”

If only you would come to the party with me tomorrow!

Furthermore, If only can be used to reply to someone as a short answer:

Are you going on holiday this year?
If only!

Ok, so we have one more thing to cover!

We can also use wish + infinitive in formal English and it means want or would like.

We often receive emails like this:

Dear Mr./Ms. Brown,
I wish to inform you…

It is usually used to convey some kind of information so we use it with words like: say, tell, inform, express etc.